Saturday, January 19, 2013

Rivers could run through it,

They really could with how much someone's identity could change, and dose change. It's a part of life. People change religion, politics, sexuality, all of that and even smaller things too like food prefrance. All of these make up the identity that people think of when they think of you, or that you think of when thinking about yourself.

Sometimes you figure out things that won't change. Like I did when I discovered I was a lesbian. That's not going to change anytime soon. At all really. But other parts I can see changing. I can see me finding out I'm really just a monogamous lesbian. No swinger. No bi romatisium.

And I'm okay with that. It's part of being human is wiggling around, finding out who you are and then learning to love your self and let your self be loved so that you can love other's to the fullest in return.

As for know, this is what I'm pretty sure I am and can see me being for the rest of my life. Swinger and all that jazz.

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  1. Hello Jasmin I'm from Lees support group. I've been reading what he says both in the group and on his blog and I know I'm not supposed to be talking to you but after hearing what your friend Aislaynn, who might want to avoid blaming him for what he's going through, said to him and what you have said that you and he both may be going through some adult separation anxiety for your own reasons. He's said it was a long distance relationship from the few things you've both said you two didn't really spend a lot of time with each other in person after you started dating but you talked every day. He feels alone in everything he's going through and not just in your changed dating status. He's said he's thought about suicide before. It's true I can't know what either of you are going through or how you feel about each other but that can't be something you or anybody want. From hearing his side of it and now some of yours and from your friend Aislynn it sounds like he is having more trouble getting what he's trying to say across and that people outside of group don't want to hear it. I think he gets that you're not a couple and he's not trying to get you back in a dating relationship but is trying to find the calmness and support that you give him. If you could find the time and courage to remind him in any small way that he is not going through nor does he have to go through this alone I think he needs to hear that from someone he trusts and feels more close to than us. I've advices him to put trying to be friends with you again on hold for a little while so you should have the chance to think about this for yourself. It's a few minutes to save a life and keep a friend please think about it.

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    1. Thank you for being there for Lee, however: I'm nor responcabul for what my friends do and say, they are their own people. I'm not sure where you got that I have adult separation anxiety.

      I'm not sure what he is going through right now as I don't read his blog, that's his space to vent so I'm not about to poke around, and I do plan to talk to him again, when I am ready. To be honest the more people push me one way or the other the more I just sit and don't move.

      Again thank you for being there and I am glad that he has people that care and are able to listen to him.

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    2. I wasn't implying that what was said or what he decides to do was your responsibility. As for the A.S.A.D. I've been with the group site for a few years now and I read some of what you have here. It rang a bell is all. I'm glad he reached out and found people who will listen to. His story just sounded so close to what I have been through I couldn't help but try to help. I'm sorry but I thought you should know.

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    3. Still have no idea where you're getting the ASAD. Never apologize for trying to help someone you care about, but I will talk to him when I am ready to, not before

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    4. Well hearing both sides of the story makes alot more sense. I know I don't know you or him very well and have no right to say this. You can listen or not but I think that you should read his blog and talk to about it and this and everything again some one or him or just think about it. I do believe it'll make everyone involved happier. But now I'm meddling so I'll stop. Best wishes to all and I hope things work themselves out.

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  2. I'd delete these comments before be finds out some one he trusted went behind his back and makes thing worse.

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    1. I make a point of not removing posts. They can be removed by the poster I think. So they can go take it down if they want. I don't filter what people care to say.

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